Comments on: Narcissists Say the Darndest Things: Great Quotes by Narcissists

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 17 May 2012 15:41:00 +0000

Hi
I found you through a friend sharing a marvelous video – the sociopath-psychopath one. I was hysterical on the sociopathic big hair religious connection bit. The Wall street and potilitians portion was more depressing, but still so beautifully said. I loved it!

Now, reading here I am equally awed by your honesty regarding your joyous childhood.
As for adding my favourite quote… just one? Out of a lifetime of at first thinking you were wrong or crazy, then realising I was sane, but finding no way to get the family still hooked into the nasty patterns to realise they were never going to help these people because THEY are the ones with the problem. I have two, maybe three, relatives who are NPD, one leans towards sociopath. Isn’t it fun knowing your loved ones want to harm you, one way or another? :-\

A quote or two? I’m thinking… I had a story printed in Reader’s Digest. Relative #1 found out and phoned me, angry, Told me:”You’re so bloody lucky! I hope you’re going to remember to give me the money.”

And the silliest – being at a marathon handing out water with relative #2 standing watching. The news media helicopter flies over low and the guy filming waves to us all… everything smiles and the volunteers all wave… and relative #2 prods me angrily and says, “he’s not waving at YOU. He’s waving at ME.”

I did laugh that time, because relative #2 was only six years old, but it became less cute as we grew older and her anger at not being centre of the universe made her do things like push her boyfriend down the stairs. I was genuinely scared for her, and scared of her, more than once.

relative #1 also told me how she didn’t want her daughter anymore because… she scraped her teeth on the fork when she ate.

yucky yucky memories and even when you overcome them… they linger like dog poo on your shoe. You wash it a million times, spray with disinfectant but… you just can SMELL it forever somehow.

Ok, now I’m off to check your books out on Amazon and hint to the good decent people I keep in my life that these are what I want for my birthday! ;-D

By: Nolalily

Nolalily — Tue, 15 May 2012 02:34:50 +0000

You mentioned that you have given your NM everything she’s wanted in the fruitless hope that something might make her happy. I learned to “reframe” incidents with my NM. Long ago I discovered that nothing was ever going to make her happy. So now, the only reason why I ever give her anything ( and that’s rarely) is to shut her up.

By: K.

K. — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 15:01:11 +0000

Now that my husband knows I’m done and will soon be leaving he says ” at least I have an excuse for acting this way, what’s yours”? He’s a drunk and obviously just admitted it. Well admitted that he’s aware of it.. Another favorite of mine is ” I may be drunk but God knows my heart”

By: Kelly

Kelly — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 22:17:00 +0000

Leslie that is hysterical! Imagine she is the type of friend that sucks all the air out of the room! Have fun in England.

By: Leslie

Leslie — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 21:02:54 +0000

I’ve followed this thread with great interest over the last couple months, but tonight I realised I had quite a good one to share. Can’t believe I never put together before that this friend was a narcissist!

This was several years ago, when I was preparing to move from Los Angeles to London for a new job. Narcissistic Best Friend rings me up a few days before I am due to move:

Her: So when can we get together before you go?
Me: Well, it’s all getting really crowded now, I’ve got so many things to do in the next three days before I leave. We’ve left it a bit late.
Her: What about Tuesday? (the last day before I leave)
Me: I can’t. I’m having a root canal that morning, I want to get all the American dental work I can before I go!
Her: What about that afternoon?
Me: Well, I’ll be all medicated and uncomfortable. I probably won’t be able to talk.
Her: (and here’s the money quote) That’s okay – you don’t need to talk!

The beautiful thing about moving to another country is that you can simply drop bad friends with a minimum of fuss. I recommend it highly.

(Just read The Psycho Ex Game, adored it, think you are The Business. Now off to read the new one.)

By: 34-yr-old guy

34-yr-old guy — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 14:57:10 +0000

So on Easter two weeks ago, my wife and I agreed to ride with my narcissist mom and my stepdad on the 90-minute drive to his family’s house for the annual get-together. Because my stepdad drank 5 or 6 glasses of wine while I drank Sprite, my wife and I told him we’d prefer if I drove home. He said he was fine, and good old mom agreed.

20 minutes into the drive home, as still-tipsy stepdad drunkenly pointed out every stupid landmark we passed on the way home, I blew up, yelling that I was pissed that we were all riding with a drunk driver. Neither he nor my mom responded in any way.

A few days later, in email convo with my mom, I mentioned that I was still upset about the drunk driving. Here’s her awesome response:

“It was very commendable of you and [your wife] to mention [my husband's] drinking as a concern for who drove. He’s one of the best drivers I’ve seen, even when he’s drank a bit. He’s told me when he thinks he can’t. He didn’t make any mistakes in driving home, did he? But you were right in bringing it up, and next time, he said he’d let you drive to avoid the bad feelings.”

Ain’t my parents grand?!

By: Kelly

Kelly — Fri, 13 Apr 2012 06:30:40 +0000

I look forward to reading the book you recommend (what a perfect title!) Your book will definately be purchased in tandem. I sense the comic relief would be a good balance, as I delve into the issue of my NM. I read “What the Dogs Have Taught Me” and found it delightfully funny!

Thank you Merrill for bringing this issue to light and being a resource for others as they deal with this issue. For myself, I feel this is a long missing piece to a puzzle I have been trying to solve for years.

Let the healing begin!

By: Merrill Markoe

Merrill Markoe — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 22:15:37 +0000

Well, as much as I want to sell books, its not my book that you need to read. My book is humorous essays on a variety of things (AND a few on narcissistic moms.) What you need to read are straight explanation books , of which there are many. “Why is it always about you?” is one I recommend a lot. But there are a ton of them, many of them good. Reading will set you free! Good luck. Judging by your anecdote, your Mom certainly sounds like one. The books will be very comforting.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 07:37:39 +0000

Thank you! Now I know I am not as crazy as I think I am – I have a narcissistic mother! What a relief. She has a knack of bringing everything back around to her. It is exhausting trying to live up to her never met and ever demanding expectations. When I had been going through a very rough patch in my life, I had intentionally given myself time away from her. I didn’t have the energy to deal with my high Drama Mama! My brief, but polite phone calls and visits were not satisifactory. She threw a hissy fit! Finally, I broke down and told her that I was dealing with severe depression and was in an out treatment program and was having a hard time talking about it with friends and family. Her response was, “Well, how do think that makes ME feel that you can’t talk to ME about this? Don’t you think I have a right to know? Why would you punish ME like that?”

I am going to research narcissism, buy your book, and move 3000 miles away from her. I know moving away is not a solution, but I can’t help but wonder…

By: J

Wed, 11 Apr 2012 23:50:49 +0000

Thank you so much for your help. I’ll reflect on what you said.